Who Do You Shop With?
My favorite form of exercise is walking. When I want to
really get into it, especially when it’s cold or rainy—or a little snowy—I go
to a mall. It’s indoors, it’s big, It’s warm, I can do laps. But malls mean
window shopping. I have a friend with whom I do “dinner and a mall.” We meet in
a department store, go for a bit at one of the mall restaurants—we have our
favorites and alternate among them—and we walk.
But that’s also window shopping.
I’m really not a big shopper. I like to look at displays,
but getting my wallet out of my bag means that I’m probably looking for
something in particular—for myself or as a gift. That’s when I want another
opinion, but who should I use.
I don’t look at prices on things that other people buy, and
I don’t want them to look at the price of what I’m buying, The woman I do
dinner with first shares her coupons with me; I share with her. After all, if
we’re not using them for ourselves someone should benefit. I would rather shop
with someone who will give me an honest opinion on how I look in whatever I try
on, not a comment on my budget. Which leads me to who I’m willing to shop with.
Yes, I shop with the woman I have dinner with. We’ve been
friends for almost 50 years and know each others’ tastes well. But we never
comment on each other’s budgets. If I’m not paying for something it’s none of
my business anyway—unless I want the same thing. I just want an opinion. It she
doesn’t like how it looks, or if she thinks the fit is off, she will tell me that, but only that. But I
have other friends I won’t go into stores with. First, there are those who want
to tell me how to budget. It’s my wallet; stay out of it. Plus, these are
sometimes people who don’t know how to budget themselves—trust me. I’ve heard
many tales of money woes. If you can’t manage your budget, don’t come near
mine.
If I Didn't Ask for an Opinion...
Then, there are those who want to toss my wardrobe and start
fresh with how they believe I should dress. Personally, I think my clothing
choices are fine; I was once told by my boss that I dressed too well for the
office, I was a bit taken aback by that one and decided to ignore it. The only
time I’ll worry is if they tell me something is ripped or that my clothing is dirty—and
that’s never happened. I have sometimes appeared slightly wrinkled, but usually
only if I’m tired and not paying attention when I leave the house. And, by the
way, I kept on dressing “too well.” (She, however, always dressed down; I’m not
sure she even changed the jeans she wore all the time that often, although
she said she had several pairs just like them. I kept my mouth shut on that
one.) I think my clothing style is fine and suits me. No, I didn’t wear jeans
for most of my life, but I didn’t have the patience to figure out what “worked”
for me in denim either. I’m definitely not the type to try on 15 different
styles in one clothing type to find out what works. If I try on three of
anything and one works, I’m done.
Don't Disappear Either
And then there’s the third category. I met someone for
lunch—at the mall—and said I had to stop into a store to look for a particular
color in pants. She came along. I went into the dressing room, tried on a
couple of pairs of the pants I might want, picked one, paid, and then had to
find her. No interest in anything I was looking at or even an offer of an
opinion. We stopped to look at wallets for her and I said something—just from
my view. She appreciated it but she had no interest in what I was doing. I’m
still deciding if that was good or rude. I’m probably going to err on the side
of good, but I still find the complete lack of any interest at all odd.
Obviously, I have friends on all sides of the issue. I think
I prefer to shop with the ones who are at least interested in offering an
opinion when asked. Total disinterest is always startling to me. But I’m still
going to avoid the ones who look at the price tags on my behalf, and those who
want to reinvent me. I’ll stay out of their budgets and choices too. For those
cases, it’s just “lunch/dinner and a ….” I’m trying to keep my sanity.
Off to the mall now!
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