Showing posts with label toddler. Show all posts
Showing posts with label toddler. Show all posts

Monday, January 5, 2015

Regularly Scheduled Dinner--Maybe      


I do Thanksgiving dinner. Actually, I’ve done it 35 times so I’ve been preparing it regularly since before my children were born. Supposedly, it’s “my” holiday. The only two I missed were when my great-aunt invited my family to join hers (and to bring my in-laws), and last year, when it came out 6 weeks after my granddaughter was born—she was deemed a little young to travel.
But back to my dinner. It’s a blend of traditional turkey/stuffing/cranberry sauce (the usual) with traditional Jewish foods. Potato latkes are a staple and I’ve also been known to serve derma—a stuffing of meat and some form of grain that’s part of a sausage—although that has kind of stopped since we don’t seem to have a decent kosher delicatessen in the area. In the last few years, my older daughter has become the fastest potato peeler anywhere, which makes the latkes a lot easier to do, and my younger daughter consults on the desserts. Everyone offers suggestions for sides. And I improved the turkey when I heard Bobby Flay recommend adding chicken stock to the bottom of the pan. I do that twice—at beginning of cooking and in the last hour—and my husband is singing its praises. Who knew it could be that easy?

The strength in Pyrex

This past Thanksgiving, I had another mission. My granddaughter was past 13 months old and I decided it was time for her to walk. Total success. She arrived here crawling 80% of the time—we reversed that and she left walking 80% of the time. Now she’s almost up to running. Plus, there’s a step down from the kitchen to the family room. She figured that out on her own—although after managing to go down head first and hitting herself. She’s a quick study. She also moves around with a twinkle in her eye that says, “I know you don’t want me to do this but I’m going to try anyway; going to stop me?” Usually, unless it’s dangerous, we don’t because even falling down is a learning experience. The best one came when she realized she could open two cabinet doors at once—walking gave her a new level of reach—and bang them together. She loved it. But, when she managed to pull most of a set of Pyrex bowls out and let them fall onto the floor, even she scared herself. However, it seems that Pyrex when dropped 6 inches is pretty indestructible. Fortunately, it didn’t fall on her very small foot. Once she realized she was fine and there were no terrible repercussions, it was back to door banging. She loved that. Unfortunately, she had to leave, so we’re back to Facetime every weekend, and sometimes during the week. Now that walking was so successful, when we go out in February I'm going to work on getting her talking more. It's time.

Small explosion

On Thanksgiving night, though, after the food was eaten, and leftovers put away, and while the baby was playing with everyone – did I mention that she knew within 15 minutes who her great-aunt was in the room, and who her great-grandmother was? If you asked her, she knew who to look at, which we thought was, was usual, brilliant—I dropped a small grenade into the room. Not even the hubby knew it was coming. It was my last Thanksgiving. It’s not an easy meal to plan, or put together –making the latkes alone, which is done same day, usually takes at least an hour and a half. Plus, I think it needs new blood. I’m happy to buy the food for whatever menu others want, but I’m not getting up so early again to cook it. And my arthritis is really not happy with me that weekend. After 35 dinners, it’s time for me to hang up my potholders and let someone else take it on. I’d even be happy to cater it, if I know what people want; or to go to a restaurant and let them serve it. We won’t discuss the whole set up and clean up issue. I’ll know the verdict on what we do in August, because plans still have to be made. Otherwise, it’s going to be a really small dinner for hubby and I. I'll be able to watch the entire parade.




Thursday, September 26, 2013

A Grandchild Is Coming!
A Grandchild Is Coming!


Finally, it’s coming. We’re going to be grandparents in just a few weeks. My mother will be a great-grandmother. My sister will become a great-aunt, which I suspect she’s more into than she was when she first got nieces. All of our friends are anticipating this event. For us, we’re almost the first in our circles to hit this milestone.

Speaking of my mother, she’s ecstatic. I think she thought it might never happen – her late best friend was up to five of them, but now there is no way to, as they say, “kvell” about it there. But every day I am asked, “What’s the word from Denver? How big is the baby now? I’m telling everyone I know.” I’m with her; I want to talk about it too—to everyone.

Have you seen how many tests the mother-to-be now has to go through? In my day, there was a little blood work, and if there was any concern, maybe an ultrasound. Even amniocentesis didn’t happen too often, and it was usually done only in select hospitals. Now they have whole panels of tests for very specific areas. Ultrasounds are commonplace, with pictures sent home with you. The only one that really bothers me is the digital one, which can show the face of the baby. And there are also prebirth tests to make sure the delivery can’t transfer germs to the baby. Who knew about this stuff years ago? And yet the kids usually arrived just fine.

How do I feel about this? I think I’m ready for the next generation to arrive. I like the idea of another member of the family, although this time I don’t have to be the primary caregiver and will be there for play dates. I’m with the group that believes grandparents are there to provide support—especially mentally and emotionally—but also to play with the kids, wear them out, and then return them to the parents and let them calm the kids down. I’m not sure I’ll overwhelm a kid with sweets though. This time around, it’s just payback.

I haven’t had the heart to tell my daughter and son-in-law that while they’ll always be special people, the grandchild has moved to the top of that ladder.  And what can be more special than that?  It’s the main rule of grandparenthood. Now I make sure to check out baby clothes in every relevant store I pass. Don’t know what we’re getting yet but I’ll be prepared.


Time to get to the big event.